I like this article. May be for high schoolers but I think it’s relevant :)
A lot of girls right now are yearning for the deep emotional connections and excitement that come with traditional romance, but they don’t know how to get it. They are bitterly disappointed, and they think that the problem lies with the boys, who “aren’t interested in these kinds of relationships anymore” and who “have no one to teach them.”
I’m not so sure about that, and here is why: Girls are—and have always been—the ones who set the terms of their relationships with boys. Here’s the basic truth of the matter: Adolescent boys and young men will do whatever it takes for access to female companionship and sexuality. If a girl’s requirements for a boy to gain that access are that he must spend time with her, ask her on dates, study what she likes and dislikes so that he can get to know her, express his affection for her, and make a pledge to be faithful to her over the course of the relationship—if that is what is required of him, if he wants to be with her—then that is what he will do. But if her standards are different—if her standards are no standards—then those are the ones he will meet. If all it takes to get close to her is showing up at the same party and hooking up with her, then, well, his job is done.
